If you speak your mind you're an angry and bitter bitch.

If you don't speak up for yourself you need to do better and demand more from life/men.

If you save yourself for the right one, you're a prude bitch.

But if you sleep with everyone that you meet you're a nasty ho.

If you wear a weave you're a self-hating black woman who wants to be white.

But if you rock a 4c natural you don't take enough pride in your appearance. 

If you have goals, aspirations and respect for yourself as a black woman, you're a snooty, condescending beeyotch who "don't need a man."

But if you rely on the government or a man to take care of you you're a welfare queen/gold digger.

If you fight for the rights of your skinfolk you're just "trying to be like Rosa Parks," searching for the limelight.

But if you choose to sit back and let the men handle it for once, you're a "sellout."

What "they" think (whoever they may be for you) should be the last of your concerns as a grown adult woman. You have to conduct your life in a way that feels comfortable for you.

Do everything that you do for YOU.

Don't abstain from sex with every guy you meet because you're afraid of being called a ho. Do it because you value your sexual health and don't want to sit in a clinic wringing your hands for hours.

Don't go natural because someone says you're not "real." Do it because that's what makes you feel good.

Don't hold your tongue because someone might call you an angry black woman. Do it because you personally have decided to choose your own battles.

Choose to make your money in a way that feels comfortable and right with YOUR OWN spirit -- not what someone else deems appropriate.

If you're going to be on the front lines of *any* movement, make sure you're doing it for the right reasons (your own reasons) -- not to fit into someone else's mold of what you "need to do."

Do what you do in life for YOU. Every day, every moment, every millisecond of your life.


The CBLady



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